Internal vs. External Control (Promoting Positive Self Esteem)
Promoting Positive Self-Esteem in Children Internal vs. External Control We all want to be responsible parents. After all, that’s the job we signed up for. With that responsibility comes a requirement - legal, moral and ethical - that we do what we can to control our children. Though it is an expectation of child-rearing, it also behooves us to recognize our limits and learn how to manage our children without becoming dominating or overly-controlling. The job is to develop young adults who can control their own behavior without external motivation or short-term gratification. That requires that we teach them to manage and control themselves. Managing vs. Controlling Children It is true that one aspect of management is control. Think about teachers. Classroom management requires that they assume control of the environment. Behavior management requires that they assume control of the behavior of the kids in the classroom. Teachers achieve these responsibilities by u...