There are 5 Ways to Build Confidence As Parents Check them Out
Promoting Positive Self-Esteem in Children
5 Ways to Build Confidence as Parents
Self-esteem can be very tenuous. As
parents, when our children fail it is easy to take it personally. The same
principles apply to parents building confidence as to children who are
developing confidence in themselves.
Building greater confidence and self-esteem
takes practice. But, the results are well worth the time and effort. Stronger confidence benefits you in every
area of your life.
Using these strategies will help you and your children develop greater
confidence and self esteem
1. Learn from mistakes and failure. It’s
okay to fail. Failing is part of the learning process. This improves
decision-making skills, enables one to think through longterm results of their
choices, and accept feedback about their mistakes without feeling like a
personal failure.
Parents are also learning something new with
each child. The process is the same - you learn from mistakes and failures.
2. See mistakes and failures as tools for
success. Confidence comes from learning to trust our instincts, skills, and
abilities. It is gained over time through both success and failure. It requires
taking risks and dealing with consequences.
The more skilled
our children become in making the right choices, the more confident they
become.
If you regularly
use mistakes as a tool for success, when your kids do fail or miscalculate, they learn that it was the thinking or
process that was faulty, not the person. The same applies to you as a
parent.
3. Never stop learning. Parents are
teachers. Your job is to prepare your child to be a successful young adult. It
starts day one and never ends. You are
not always going to get it right - nobody does.
Like your child, you learn as you do things
and improve as you learn. Chances are that you’ll feel inadequate at times and
make mistakes.
Own it. Be open about your mistakes and
talk to your child about the lessons learned. They will benefit as much from
your candid discussions as anything else you do.
4. Think positive thoughts about yourself. If
you struggle with low self-esteem, it’s important that you get help with that.
Seek out a therapist if you need to. Your
behavior and how you treat yourself
is what your child absorbs.
If you stand in
front of the mirror making negative comments about your body, berate yourself
when you make a mistake, or judge others when they don’t meet your standards, your child will do the same.
5. Learn to let it go. Move forward after
you discuss lessons learned - yours and your child’s. It is information that
you will use to calculate choices in the future.
If you dwell on it or label yourself, your
child will do the same. “I made a
mistake” can become “I am a mistake”
if internalized. Get help if you need it.
Perfectionism leads to additional
challenges that neither of you need.
Practice these techniques daily with your
children.
The more you practice, the easier these
behaviors become. Once they become a habit, you and your children are well on
the path to having an automatic process that supports greater confidence and
self-esteem each day.
Comments
Post a Comment